When our boy was a pre-schooler, every day when I picked him up I had to listen to what he had, or hadn’t done, that day. When we got his ADHD medication adjusted, I was hoping for some relief. I got to school to pick him up, and the lady at the desk handed me a piece of paper telling me that he had failed his eye test of all things! Now there was something else to deal with. Discouraged? You bet.

The years pass too quickly to imagine. In this third session of lamenting a different child, I want to tell you what a wonderful and Godly young man he is today.

A non-ADHD male brain does not fully mature until age 25. It has taken our son a longer than usual time to figure out what he wants to do with his life, but after a few lessons from the University of Hard Knocks, he is in college and has a direction in mind.

He has been home from school this summer and has worked on an asphalt crew. Hard and dirty work, but fulfilling nonetheless. At 25, he is maturing wonderfully.

We have always had what we’ve called our “Saturday Morning Conversations” where we talk together about deeper things, such as God’s plans for our lives, how to correctly handle a particular situation, and other hearty topics. Recently he told me how he wants to live a holy life, and how in his position this semester as Wing Advisor at college, he wants to be a servant leader, helping those who are struggling. I have no doubt that he be a great role model for other students.

Love Heart, if God has gifted you with one who at this stage is making you crazy, just hang on. It doesn’t matter if they are 5 or 35, God is still in control, and has created them for a purpose. Don’t give up!   Know this…He loves you and your child more than you can imagine!

“You have searched me, Lord,

and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise;

you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down;

 you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue

you, Lord, know it completely.

You hem me in behind and before,

and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,

 too lofty for me to attain.”  (Psalm 139:1-6)

No mistake made here. God knows everything and is completely in control. Gwen~


Goal!

August 20, 2017 — Leave a comment

Do you have a dog?  Does it snore?  My cocker spaniel snores like crazy.  Sometimes I’ll be lying on the sofa and she will be lying next to me – snoring up a storm.  Now, the bad thing is we sound alike!  My husband will ask, “Is that you, or the dawg?”  I’m not sure what to think about that, but you have to admit it’s pretty funny.

Let me ask you.  Are you so much like Jesus that people can’t tell you apart?  If you’re like me, probably not.  But, that’s our goal…to be like Jesus.  That’s where we’re headed, to be so much like Him in the way we live our lives that we make a difference wherever we are.  With each passing day we should be more like Him.  Will we ever get to the point where we achieve that sinless perfection?  No, not while we’re on this old earth.

In 1 John 1:8 the bible says, “If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” (NAS)  So, if you run into somebody who claims to be sinless, watch out.  You know the truth.  But if you know somebody who’s striving to be like Jesus, encourage them.  Cheer them on!  Help them up when they fall.  Let them know you can see Jesus in the way they live.  Praise God for His mercy!  Gwen~


Passion

August 17, 2017 — Leave a comment

My husband and I have been watching some of the old Billy Graham ministry programs.  Wow!  He preaches straight from the heart and lead by the Spirit.  No holding back from this man.

As I watched the telecast, one thing stood out for me.  The people who had made a decision for Christ were RUNNING to the altar.  When is the last time you’ve seen or felt that kind of Passion for anything?  Especially the Lord!

Thesaurus defines Passion as: fervor, obsession, excitement, enthusiasm, zeal, delight!

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart with all your soul with all your mind with all your strength!” (Deuteronomy 6:5) Deb~

 


Praise

August 14, 2017 — Leave a comment

What do you have going today?  Is it busy or laid back?  Worrisome or calm?  Whatever it may be, here’s a great idea from the Psalms~

This is the day the LORD has made;
         We will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24 (New King James Version)

               Go ahead.  Just let ‘er rip!  Sing a song of praise and remember that if you are His child, you are truly a Friend of God! He never takes His eyes off you and His love for you is greater than you can imagine!


More on our different children.

If your child has a disability that is not obvious, it seems that folks are all the more likely to tell you what you’re doing wrong, and how you should fix the “problem.” The usual advice includes “bustin’ his backside.” If the situation calls for it, maybe so. But that’s not always the case. In fact, sometimes it just makes matters worse.

A brain positron emission tomography (PET) scan is an imaging test of the brain. Trying everything we could think of to help our son, we had one of these test done. You can see the vast difference in an ADHD brain and a non-ADHD brain in the picture.  We learned that the parts of his brain that should be working fast were working slowly. Conversely, the parts that should be working slowly were working very fast. At least we now had positive proof that there was something different about him other than his attitude.

When we face challenges, we sometimes ask, “Why me?” Why not you, Love Heart? Let’s remember our scripture. Psalm 139:13-16.

“For you created my inmost being;

you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

 your works are wonderful,

I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you

    when I was made in the secret place,

when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Your eyes saw my unformed body;

all the days ordained for me were written in your book

before one of them came to be.”

The God of the Universe, the King of the World, has not made a mistake. He didn’t get distracted in the middle of brain making and let things slip. For HIS reasons, your child’s differences were designed. You will probably never know, this side of heaven or maybe beyond, why your kiddo is like he or she is. The wonderful news is that God knew you’d be the perfect one to raise this magnificant creation.   This you must do – Trust God!

My tip for today. Love, love, love the one, or ones, God has gifted you with. Gwen~