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The God of All Comfort~

November 4, 2016 — 1 Comment

old couple holding handsHer eyes were clouded and darkened with sadness.  She explained that her dad is in hospice care.  Apparently her mother and father have one of those increasingly rare relationships…after many, many years together, they are still very much in love.

Completely at a loss, she asked me what she could say to her mom to comfort her as she waits for the inevitable.  I asked if her father knows Jesus. Thankfully he does.

My answer was that sometimes there’s just nothing to say.

We’ve all been at a loss for words at one time or another.  Feeling that we had to say something, we blurted out words that should have been kept unspoken.

Many times, a listening ear is far more valuable than a talking mouth.  A quiet hug of Comfortersolace can greatly out value a noisy basket of platitudes.

Ongoing prayer for all involved to The Comforter will make a difference.  And though you may not say it, we who know Jesus KNOW that He has promised to never leave or forsake us…ever…even in the horrible times!  And He Always keeps His Word!  Gwen~


No, Never Alone~

April 28, 2016 — Leave a comment

Several years ago, I had the privilege of reading scripture at my brother’s memorial service.  What an honor that was.  Since that time, I find myself in a very odd-feeling place.

I’m sure it’s a place that many of you share with me…I’m the last one.  Both parents and both siblings are gone – passed from this world into the next one.

Leave As I look at the family portrait we had made many years ago on my parents 60th wedding anniversary, I’m the only one who is still alive.  In a weird sort of way, I feel alone, even though I still have my husband and son and lots of nieces and nephews and other kin who are still living.

I find my solace, however, in the fact that my God has promised to never leave or forsake me.  (Deut. 31:6)  When I ponder being the last one, my mind keeps running to this scripture.

We all understand being left.  But what does it mean to be forsaken?  It means to be turned away from or renounced.  So when God tells me He will not leave me, He also says He will never turn away from me or turn His back on me.  And, Love Heart, that brings me comfort!

Earthly life is a fragile thing.  It’s something to be handled with care.  Thank God today for His gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ and for His promises which are always kept.  Gwen~


Rebecca Ann Sedwick, 12, of Florida, and Bart Palosz, 15, of Connecticut shared the headlines during the same week inangel1 America.  Why?  Before they even had a chance to reach adulthood, evil took its toll.  Both Rebecca and Bart were victims of incredible bullying, and subsequently, unable to cope, took their own lives.

As a society which is getting sicker and meaner with each tick of the clock, we continue to want to purge our country of anything that mentions God.  And so far, we’re doing a pretty good job of it.  Surely we don’t want to offend anyone!  Well, I am incredibly offended that we are trying to create a Godless society, and evil is smiling all the while!

As a child, in Sunday School and even in the classroom, The Golden Rule was displayed and memorized.  “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” (Luke 6:31)  I can’t help but wonder if any of these bullies have even heard Golden Rulethese words?  Unfortunately, I know that “church kids” can be as mean as anybody else as I have witnessed that first hand in the treatment of our ADHD son.  But surely, if they have been taught how to treat others, somewhere deep in their souls they know they are doing wrong.  And if they have that knowledge, they can repent.

I worry for them, but the ones I’m most concerned about are the ones who’ve never heard – never been taught –  never seen God’s word in action.

Love Heart, I hope God has given you the eyes to see and the mind to understand that all that is going on in our society is not political but spiritual!

Pray for the Sedwick and Palosz families for sure, but don’t forget the families from which the bullies came.

Words cannot express the sadness that fills my heart for both these children and the families they left behind.  Our condolences from Love Heart Ministries.  Gwen~






An Empty Seat~

December 6, 2013 — Leave a comment

In the last week two notables passed from this life…Paul Walker, 40, and Nelson Mandela, 95.  The world was focused on the lives of these two who made their substantial marks in history in very different ways. 

GarlandAs we enter the Christmas season, many of you are grieving the loss of your loved ones. I’m with you in that grief as I lost my brother, Garland Brunson, the last of my core family, October 1.

While they meant the world to us, perhaps most of the world didn’t know them.  Some lived long and full lives, while others were stillborn.  Their lives weren’t examined by public scrutiny; their accomplishments weren’t published by the major news agencies.

Take heart!  Hear the word of the Lord from Psalm 116:15.  “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.”

Since death is the most dreadful thing we humans can imagine, it’s hard to wrap our minds around death being precious.  But we know from experience that God never lies, and He’s never wrong.  So if you have lost someone that you loved who was a follower of Christ, know that the God of the universe was pleased to call them home – forever. 

Your heart will still ache and you may still be asking why, but Love Heart, all I know to say is it’s OK.  May God bless you and yours and fill your hearts with comfort and joy. Gwen~

p.s.  Not half an hour after I posted this blog, I received a note saying one of my friends lost her father this morning.  Peace be to all, Kathy G.

I read this wonderful article in my morning devotional and thought it was just too wonderful not to share.  This family and many others suffered that day but chose to Turn Tragedy into Triumph! ~Debra
TGIF Today God Is First Volume 2, by Os Hillman

“So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you” (2 Cor 4:12).

th (1)On 9/11/01, New York City firefighter Stephen Siller had just completed his shift when he heard on his truck’s scanner that a plane had hit one of the World Trade Center towers. Siller quickly turned his truck around and attempted to drive back to Manhattan via the Brooklyn Battery Tunnel but found the entrance blocked by abandoned vehicles. Desperate to join his elite Squad One brothers, Siller donned 75 pounds of fire gear and ran a mile-and-a-half through the tunnel, before an emergency vehicle picked him up and dropped him off at Tower Two.

Siller had been orphaned at the age of 10 and raised by his much older brothers and sisters. Siller died that day trying to save others. He left behind a wife and five children.

His story proved so inspirational that it became a legend in the newsrooms and firehouses of New York City. His six siblings – who in many ways viewed Siller as a son, as well as a brother – found themselves grappling with a dilemma: should they allow the tragic circumstances of their brother’s death to paralyze and embitter them or use it as a catalyst to help others and preserve his memory?

The Siller family chose the latter.

Once they made that decision, and armed with no extraordinary wealth or political clout, the siblings combined forces to convince New York officials to close down the Brooklyn Battery Tunnel the last Sunday morning of each September and stage the “Tunnel to Towers Run” to commemorate their brother’s heroic last run.

Each year since 9/11 tens of thousands of runners have retraced the steps of a hero. As part of the event 343 New York City firefighters, each representing a fallen comrade and holding an American flag, stand throughout the length of the tunnel. They are joined by firefighters from across the United States, each holding a poster-size picture of a firefighter who perished on 9/11.

The Siller family has raised more than $1 million and donated the money to charities that benefit families of those affected by the 9/11 attacks.

This is a tribute to one heartbroken family who opted to channel its energy into triumph out of tragedy.