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Those Eyes!

March 16, 2015 — Leave a comment

Have you ever heard the song that says “How deep the Father’s love for us?”  It’s a great song.  But, there are some of us who balk at the love of a father, simply confused by our own life experiences.

It seems that our relationship with our earthly father has a lot of influence on how we feel about the attributes of our Heavenly Father.

Through a set of really bad circumstances, my father basically ignored me.  Only after I moved away from home did we have any kind of interaction.  So, what does that leave me thinking about my Heavenly Father?

Maybe that He is out there but totally not interested in me and my life.  Or, maybe he’s busy and doesn’t have time for me.  After all, he’s got the whole planet to think about!

Listen to this.   Ephesians 3:17b-19 says, “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

The Father sent His only Son for us.  Yes, we know Jesus came to die so we could live, but sometimes the impact of that just rolls over us.  But in this scripture Paul was doing his best to let us in on the vastness and the depth of a love we can’t imagine.

Love Heart, if your relationship was is not good with your earthly father, don’t discount the magnitude of the love your Heavenly Father has for you.  He won’t give you love and then take it back.  He won’t make you perform to receive His love, and you won’t have to beg for His attention.  His eyes are always on you. Job 34:21 gives us comfort. “His eyes are on the ways of men; he sees their every step.”

You have His full attention Love Heart…always!  You’re his pride and joy!  Gwen~

 

 

 

Sadness and Sorrow

November 4, 2014 — Leave a comment

                Charlie, my son, plays a tune on the piano called “Sadness and Sorrow.”  It’s a beautiful piece, but it’s definitely name worthy.  Today, many around the world are caught up in sadness and sorrow for a million different reasons.  Here’s an example.

I have friends who have suffered incredible loss in recent days.  Moreover, I have friends who are facing death of a loved one in a few months.  My heart breaks for those in both these circumstances.

How do we get through these unimaginably difficult times?  We turn to the Word, the Bible.  We ask God for help and strength.  Even reading prophetic scripture from the old testament encourages us.

Listen to this which was written some 700 years before His birth: “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah 9:6 NIV)

I love these names for Jesus!  Wonderful Counselor, Prince of Peace!  Wow!

November is the beginning of the holiday season, and those “holidays” can evoke a wide range of emotions in people.  Love Heart, He knows you through and through.  He cares that you hurt.  He is able to be your Wonderful Counselor!  Call on the One who can help.  Call on Jesus.  Gwen~

Fall Into His Arms~

September 12, 2014 — 1 Comment

Sometimes, life is just too sad and cruel.  Unwanted, and certainly unwelcome, a horrific disease invades your life and wraps around your soul like thick, dark black tentacles.  The diagnosis is there…nothing can be done.  Life as you knew it is suddenly gone. If you could feel helpless that would be a step up from where you are.

It’s impossible to get your mind around the implications.  As impossible as it seems, tomorrow will be harder than today, and all the tomorrows will clang wildly, one into another, until they are finished.

Do you shake your fist at God or do you drop on your knees before Him?  After losing everything, Job’s wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast your integrity?  Curse God and die!”  Job replies, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks.  Shall we indeed accept good from God and not accept adversity?”

Love Heart, this is not what God planned for us.  He made us perfect and put us in a perfect place with all we needed, but it wasn’t enough.  Through one man, Adam, sin came into the world.  And, through one man, Jesus, redemption was provided.

If your heart is breaking, please don’t blame God.  Fall into His arms.  He will give you the strength you need to cope.  He is your Everything. Gwen~

 

 

 

 

Good Grief!

July 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

               Grief is a strange thing.  Everybody does it differently.  Some hold it in, suffering in silence, while others scream in agony.  Some grieve for a very long time while others seem to grieve relatively quickly and then “move on.”  What’s the right way?  The answer –Your way.

No one really knows you but you and God.  Don’t compare your response to anybody else’s.  And when well-meaning folks try to tell you how to do it, just smile and carry on.

However – a word of caution.  If you find yourself spiraling downward into a black pit of depression, you may want to seek professional help.  There’s absolutely no shame in that.

When my mother passed away, I don’t recall shedding a tear.  Though she loved me in her own way, we didn’t have a good relationship.

We were living in a very small west Texas town where a mental health counselor came to visit about once a month.  I felt like my response to Mom’s death wasn’t “proper” so I talked with the counselor.

She explained to me that for years I had grieved the loss of a mother/daughter relationship, so at this point there was nothing left to do.  What would have been totally crazy for some was right for me.  Now when my brother passed away, I couldn’t get off the couch for a week.  Different time, different person, different situation.

Love Heart, today if you find yourself grieving, take it to God.  He understands.  And, be gentle with yourself.  Gwen~

An Empty Seat~

December 6, 2013 — Leave a comment

In the last week two notables passed from this life…Paul Walker, 40, and Nelson Mandela, 95.  The world was focused on the lives of these two who made their substantial marks in history in very different ways. 

GarlandAs we enter the Christmas season, many of you are grieving the loss of your loved ones. I’m with you in that grief as I lost my brother, Garland Brunson, the last of my core family, October 1.

While they meant the world to us, perhaps most of the world didn’t know them.  Some lived long and full lives, while others were stillborn.  Their lives weren’t examined by public scrutiny; their accomplishments weren’t published by the major news agencies.

Take heart!  Hear the word of the Lord from Psalm 116:15.  “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.”

Since death is the most dreadful thing we humans can imagine, it’s hard to wrap our minds around death being precious.  But we know from experience that God never lies, and He’s never wrong.  So if you have lost someone that you loved who was a follower of Christ, know that the God of the universe was pleased to call them home – forever. 

Your heart will still ache and you may still be asking why, but Love Heart, all I know to say is it’s OK.  May God bless you and yours and fill your hearts with comfort and joy. Gwen~

p.s.  Not half an hour after I posted this blog, I received a note saying one of my friends lost her father this morning.  Peace be to all, Kathy G.