Today I want to begin a series of a few blogs about children who are “different.” If you happen to be the parent of one who struggles with his or her differences, I know you feel confused, inadequate and frustrated.
This is my story and the actions we chose. In no way am I suggesting you do what we did.
Our son was diagnosed with ADHD at 3 years old. He is adopted, and there was not much family history to go on. After much consideration and consulting with professionals, we decided that medication was the best course of action for him. A top pediatric psychiatrist in Houston, Texas advised us that if we did not medicate him, he would never be able to fulfill his potential.
While the medication was a tremendous blessing, it was also a nightmare to regulate. Trying various kinds of meds and then tweaking the dosing was tedious. Every time a new med came on the scene, we tried it. All the while, I read about ADHD and talked with those experiencing the same thing we were.
I remember talking with a mom who had a second grader with ADHD. I didn’t know the woman but had been “referred” to her as someone who might help me understand or encourage me. It was the worst conversation ever. Apparently her little guy had either had a bad day, or maybe his meds weren’t good for him, but she was anything but encouraging!
Years later, we were trying neuro feedback, which did help, when a lady told me, “Yeah, we tried that. My kid’s just a *****.” I was horrified that a mom could talk about her own child like that, no matter what was going on with him.
Here’s my tip for today. It’s good to join a support group for parents of ADHD kids if there is one in your area. The one I was in helped me understand why our son had been doing so well only to twist off. Their question to me was, “What are you doing differently?” Cough medicine was the answer. AND, try to talk to someone who has adult children with ADHD. There are days when you don’t think there could possibly be an upside to the disorder, but you’ll be surprised.
Love Heart, no matter what’s going on in your life, good, bad or indifferent, you must hang on to Jesus. Our text from the Holy Word of God is Psalm 139:13-16.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
More next time. Gwen~