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Good Grief!

July 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

               Grief is a strange thing.  Everybody does it differently.  Some hold it in, suffering in silence, while others scream in agony.  Some grieve for a very long time while others seem to grieve relatively quickly and then “move on.”  What’s the right way?  The answer –Your way.

No one really knows you but you and God.  Don’t compare your response to anybody else’s.  And when well-meaning folks try to tell you how to do it, just smile and carry on.

However – a word of caution.  If you find yourself spiraling downward into a black pit of depression, you may want to seek professional help.  There’s absolutely no shame in that.

When my mother passed away, I don’t recall shedding a tear.  Though she loved me in her own way, we didn’t have a good relationship.

We were living in a very small west Texas town where a mental health counselor came to visit about once a month.  I felt like my response to Mom’s death wasn’t “proper” so I talked with the counselor.

She explained to me that for years I had grieved the loss of a mother/daughter relationship, so at this point there was nothing left to do.  What would have been totally crazy for some was right for me.  Now when my brother passed away, I couldn’t get off the couch for a week.  Different time, different person, different situation.

Love Heart, today if you find yourself grieving, take it to God.  He understands.  And, be gentle with yourself.  Gwen~

imageA good friend of my sons, and a young man I taught as a youth in Sunday School, was killed this week in a motorcycle accident.

We are all devastated, but we are comforted in knowing that Scott knew Jesus as his personal Savior, and we will see him again someday.

When we lose someone we love unexpectedly in a tragic, senseless accident, it’s always a reminder that we are not promised a tomorrow!

“As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more.  But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’S love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children- with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.  The LORD has established his throne in heaven and his kingdom rules over all.”  Psalms 103: 15-19.

Love Heart, if this were your last day on this earth, do you know where you would spend eternity?  image

I pray that you will not wait another second in repenting of your sins (Romans 3:23), knowing God’s great love for you (Romans 5:8), accepting God’s gift (Romans 6:23) and confessing with your mouth…that He is Lord! (Romans 10:9-10)

“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness.  He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9)

Today, not Tomorrow~Debra


May 17, 2014 — Leave a comment

image“You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” – James 4:14

I remember back in high school telling a friend, I’ll see you Monday!  That weekend she was killed in a horrific car accident.  What a shock!!  When something terrible happens like this it brings to mind our mortality.

I would like to issue a challenge:  For one year, live your life here on earth as if it were your last!  image

“Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that” (James 4:13-15).

I’m praying our prospective will be different and that our focus will be on different priorities and people. ~Debra



February 23, 2014 — Leave a comment

imageGod’s word often speaks of death being the key to life in Christ.  This is speaking of a Spiritual death, not physical.

When we become a believer our heart begins to change.  This doesn’t happen overnight, but each day we grow closer to our Creator, our perspective changes.

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matthew 6:21,NIV)  image

Get yourself a pen and paper and ask yourself a few questions.

1) Am I living to please others?

2) Am I obsessed in finding a mate?

3) Am I a party animal?

4) Do I base my morals on others and what is pleasing to the eye?

If so, you are living for the world.  Living this way will leave you extremely empty and incomplete.  Freedom takes place when “we die to self” and allow God to give us the desires of our heart!

image“The man who loves his life will lose it, while the man who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” (John 12:25, NIV)

Take your focus off of “things” and put it on Christ!~Debra

An Empty Seat~

December 6, 2013 — Leave a comment

In the last week two notables passed from this life…Paul Walker, 40, and Nelson Mandela, 95.  The world was focused on the lives of these two who made their substantial marks in history in very different ways. 

GarlandAs we enter the Christmas season, many of you are grieving the loss of your loved ones. I’m with you in that grief as I lost my brother, Garland Brunson, the last of my core family, October 1.

While they meant the world to us, perhaps most of the world didn’t know them.  Some lived long and full lives, while others were stillborn.  Their lives weren’t examined by public scrutiny; their accomplishments weren’t published by the major news agencies.

Take heart!  Hear the word of the Lord from Psalm 116:15.  “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants.”

Since death is the most dreadful thing we humans can imagine, it’s hard to wrap our minds around death being precious.  But we know from experience that God never lies, and He’s never wrong.  So if you have lost someone that you loved who was a follower of Christ, know that the God of the universe was pleased to call them home – forever. 

Your heart will still ache and you may still be asking why, but Love Heart, all I know to say is it’s OK.  May God bless you and yours and fill your hearts with comfort and joy. Gwen~

p.s.  Not half an hour after I posted this blog, I received a note saying one of my friends lost her father this morning.  Peace be to all, Kathy G.